If you've ever found yourself tossing and turning at night, you're not alone. A lot of people worry or criticize themselves about their sleep. Over the years, I’ve learned that better sleep doesn’t always come from doing more—sometimes it comes from simply allowing yourself to feel, connect, and slow down.

As someone who works closely with the rhythms of nature and the body, I’ve noticed that the most powerful sleep remedies are often the most intuitive ones. Here are three things you can try tonight to sleep more peacefully—and they may surprise you.

1. Let Yourself Cry Before Bed

I know this might sound a little strange, but sometimes crying before bed can be the exact release your nervous system needs. Whether it’s from grief, stress, or even just a build-up of anxiety and little frustrations throughout the day, crying is one of the most natural ways to discharge emotional energy.

Crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system—the part of us that helps with rest and digestion. It can also lower cortisol levels, which means your body isn’t holding onto as much stress as you drift off. It has a downward, surrendered energy. It moves water through the head, neck, and throat. In plain English, it gets us out of our heads and into our bodies.

Some people watch sad movies before bed, or journal and just let whatever wants to come out, come out. If tears happen, let them. It’s incredibly cathartic, and people always sleep more deeply on those nights.

2. Have Sex (Yes, Really)

Sex before bed is another underrated remedy for sleepless nights. Whether it’s with a partner or solo, sexual activity can release a cocktail of sleep-supportive hormones like oxytocin and prolactin, while lowering cortisol levels.

Ayurveda teaches us to work with our natural rhythms. If your body is seeking connection, pleasure, or even just that deep feeling of surrender, allowing yourself to engage in sensuality can be incredibly grounding. It helps people transition from a mentally busy day into a more embodied, restful state.

3. Create a Bedtime Ritual That Soothes You

This one is classic Ayurveda: wind down with intention. I always sleep better when I take the time to care for myself at night. That might mean sipping warm chamomile tea—or a relaxing nighttime spiced milk—doing a gentle abhyanga (self-massage with warm oil) and showering, or simply lying on the floor and doing a few restorative yoga poses.

Pre-kid, I did this a lot. Now I have to remind myself to take care of myself—just like many parents do!

The key is to send a signal to your body that the day is done, and it’s safe to let go. Even a simple five-minute ritual can shift your nervous system from go-go-go into rest mode. It doesn’t have to be complicated—just consistent.

There are often things happening during the day that are leading to poor sleep—things we can change. With me, your sleep is so important for your health, fertility and longevity.

Which Will You Try?

So if you’re struggling to sleep, don’t worry or criticize yourself for it. Instead, try one of these. Or better yet, combine them. Cry a little. Have an orgasm. Rub oil all over yourself. Let yourself be human. Because sleep isn’t just about shutting off the power button—it’s about returning to your body.

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